Thinking Out of My Box – There Is a World That Rocks

Thinking Outside the Box: Discover a World That Truly Rocks

 

Introduction: Are You Limiting Yourself Without Realizing It?

Do you believe your way of thinking is always right?
Have you ever felt that you already know enough and don’t need to learn more?
What if the biggest limitation in your life is the “box” inside your own mind?

Most of us live within invisible boundaries created by our own thoughts, beliefs, and assumptions. But the truth is—real growth begins when you step outside that box.

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The Mental Box: How Our Thinking Becomes Limited

Our perceptions, ideas, and beliefs shape who we are. Over time, we begin to judge everything based on our own opinions. This creates a mindset where:

• We believe our thinking is always correct

• We stop accepting new ideas

• We assume we have nothing more to learn

Gradually, our mind becomes a closed box, where no new thoughts are allowed to enter.

👉 The problem?
While the world evolves, our thinking stays stuck.

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Why You Must Keep Your Mind Open

Through experience and observation, one powerful truth becomes clear:

An open mind is the foundation of success and growth.

Being open-minded does NOT mean blindly agreeing with others. Instead, it means:

• Listening to different perspectives

• Analyzing ideas logically

• Accepting what makes sense

Successful people are not those who know everything—but those who are always willing to learn more.

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The Power of Listening: A Forgotten Skill

In conversations, most people:

• Focus on speaking

• Want others to agree with them

• Ignore the importance of listening

But effective communication is not just about expressing—it is about understanding.

👉 Real communication = Speaking + Listening

When you truly listen:

• You gain new insights

• You build stronger relationships

• You create mutual respect

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Why We Struggle to Listen

Let’s be honest—most of us are filled with our own thoughts and emotions.

• We wait for our turn to speak

• We try to prove ourselves right

• We ignore others’ perspectives

This habit limits growth.

👉 Instead, learn to:

• Control your emotions

• Think before you speak

• Value what others say

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Step Outside Your Box: Expand Your Thinking

 

When you open your mind:

• You discover new ideas

• You experience different perspectives

• You become more adaptable

The world is full of knowledge, but you can only access it if you are willing to step outside your comfort zone.

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Learn from People Around You

Every person you meet has:

• A unique story

• Different experiences

• Valuable lessons

Instead of forcing your views, try to understand theirs.

👉 This shift in mindset can completely transform your thinking.

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Benefits of Thinking Outside the Box

1. Improved Communication

You connect better with people and build meaningful relationships.

2. Personal Growth

You become more patient, tolerant, and emotionally intelligent.

3. Better Decision Making

You consider multiple perspectives before acting.

4. Creativity and Innovation

New ideas emerge when different viewpoints combine.

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Update Your Thinking Like a System

Think of your mind like a system.

👉 If it is not updated:

• It becomes outdated

• It stops functioning effectively

Listening to others and learning new things is like updating your mental software.

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The Role of Human Connection

 

When you:

• Share ideas

• Listen with sincerity

• Communicate openly

You create:

• Trust

• Understanding

• Strong relationships

👉 Knowledge sharing is not just learning—it is an act of connection and care.

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How to Break Out of Your Mental Box (Practical Tips)

• Listen more, speak less

• Be open to different opinions

• Avoid judging too quickly

• Reflect on your own thinking

• Learn something new every day

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The Bigger Picture: A World Full of Possibilities

When you step outside your limited thinking:

• The world becomes more exciting

• Opportunities increase

• Learning never stops

You begin to see life from a broader perspective.

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Final Thought: Step Out and Explore

At some point, we all need to ask ourselves:

👉 Am I growing, or am I stuck in my own thinking?

Because the moment you step outside your mental box, you realize:

The world is much bigger, more beautiful, and full of endless possibilities.

And that’s when you truly understand:

Thinking beyond your box opens the door to a world that truly rocks.

Higher Thoughts

Couple of years ago, when the materialistic things were of not much availability, people were closely knitted to each other and more importance was given to the relations rather than wondering about the materialistic things, but as the time passed, there was a major shift in the thinking pattern of the individuals. The Human race started running the rat race in order to earn more, this need of earning more even came as a blessing or a curse from this modernization concept itself. People started engaging themselves more into virtual world, where mobile phones, computers and gadgets started replacing the members of the family. The situation changed so much that there are chances that a husband and wife living together are so much involved in their jobs and materialistic world that they might see each other only once in a day but it has technically become impossible for a person to live without mobiles, computers even for a second.

This virtualization and materialization has taken away the inner peace of the mind. There was a time when meeting an old friend in personal was considered as one of the happiest moment for a person, but hats off to the technology these days, you can easily meet all your friends over computers and can even chat with them.

I had been a great fan of Nature photography and I used to enjoy it, but the day I started using social platforms, the only thing that came up in my mind was to have a click that I could post on my wall. So every genuine thing has been moving towards virtual world that has more to show and less to represent.

I have just taken into consideration a different view to the concept and the main motive was not to discard the technology, but to highlight the point that we are moving to a quantity based life and have compromised on the quality so much. The strange part of the whole issues is that, we do not have time for our families, but if a far friend has a status update indicating a bad health, we will not miss a chance to like the status or put a comment on the same.

I do agree to the fact that things do change with respect to time and since the passage of time the technology has upgraded and that has made our life simpler and this is appreciable, but my question comes at all the facilities that comes above this point. My post refers to the over involvement of the individuals in the technical frameworks, which has removed the essence of the emotional relations between all of us. Care in today’s world is defined as the process of liking or commenting on a status and that’s it. This is one of the major reasons for the increasing rate of depression among the individuals. The people are getting more obsessed with the materialistic things and the dependency on these things has reached to a maximum limit.

In spite of having about 1000 odd friends on face book, there are moments that when I feel alone and scroll down the list of virtual friends to find someone to share my feelings and emotions, I feel empty handed, so the numbers have increased, but what is the use of these numbers when there is no connection between the hearts and everything that exists in the virtual world is meant to create an impression on others, however no onecares of what impression it puts on an individual.

If I am feeling sad, I can post it in seconds and the same will be available to hundreds of my friends in my list, a few of them will ask why, a couple will give a like to it, whereas I never understood the sense of liking a post in which an individual is showing to be sad. So after all this is done, the main question is has my sadness gone, the answer is no, maybe I will see other happy posts on the wall and that will make me even more depressed, Instead if I had called one of my real friend that was available in physical with me, it would have been the best.

So the centre point of the whole discussion is that no matter how much the technology may advance, but it will never be possible for science and technology to replace the human emotions and no such social networking platform can do with 1000 friends online, what a single friend in actual can do for you.

May be in today’s world we have to consider all these things as the ornaments that have to be carried along, but they should be used only for decorative purposes with their role limited only to a certain extent and things like love, friendship needs a platform that could be built only using an emotional platform that needs no likes, no comments but it requires a simple hug that comes from your friend’s heart explaining and saying that I am and will always be there in your hours of difficulty.

Everything and every aspect these days is all about show off, people are more concerned about showing off their aspects and being more prominent towards making a life that seems to be perfect when seen by others. We all are making friends online and unaware of the aspect that even that person whom we consider as our friend might not be our friend at all. 

We all have an emotional quotient in us and all of us want to be emotionally connected and feel the warmth of relations. Friends and people we admire are the biggest asset that we could have, no object or worldly happiness could ever replace the warmth of human emotions, a small gesture of kindness and support from any individual or a friend of ours could eventually make us feel happy and give us a reason to be happy and look positively ahead in our lives. The past has shown many successful and rich people falling prey to poor mental health because of the absence of good friends to support them, whereas it has been seen that many not-so-rich people have friends who have supported them in tough times and this has made them live happier and contented. So it is actually very important to have people supporting you, no matter how much wealth you have, but the real wealth lies in true friendship which should not be based on personal greed or profits. 

So the main though here is that our thoughtsthought, our actions and representation of our actions should be correlated and dependent on each other. This creates a positive impact with no showoff being made on any of the aspects of life an and an individual actually shows as he is without trying to impress others and this is real life. All of us have the same destination and impressing others just in order to create a different image from what you actually are among others is no way that would bring happiness top you. As an individual you should realize that there is no one superior to you and no one has the right to judge you until and unless you are in the ethical limits of behavior, your actions should be such that they seem to motivate you and bring contentment to you because if this is not achieved it would be a problematic situation for you in the future and in this race of justifying and pleasing others you would eventually forget your happiness which indeed is the most important aspect of life that has to be achieved. 

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Heart Vs Brain- Who is the Boss

Heart and Brain both form most essential part of our body. Heart circulates blood giving life to our body. On the other hand brain gives meaning to all the events and things we see. Heart makes us feel and Brain helps us to understand, than how can we say whether it is important to feel or to understand?

Following the heart is easy for all. Heart does not distinguish between right or wrong. It just creates an altogether a rosy picture or an altogether a horror one depending upon the mood. Heart helps us in finding happiness even in small things. Heart makes us like red color and has those innocent crushes. It is this heart which helps in creating our own dream world, fantasies which seem so real and keeps us always on our toes; irrespective of whatever is going around in reality.

Brain – YES the part whose shape resembles that of walnut holds the place above the heart inside our head. Brain is a storehouse of our memories, and experiences that shape our attitudes and perceptions in general. Perceptions refer to our way of seeing this world; giving meaning to everything that is going around us. Perception forms a large part of our personality. This is the logical region which forms relations of objects with experiences and learning there by guiding our actions. Brain controls our body movements bringing about perfect coordination of our hands, eye movements.

Hearts is very innocent and happy go lucky types. They are just wild creatures who if left uncontrolled will take you on a very dangerous roller coaster ride. At the end of the day you won’t be very happy or satisfied with your doings. Our heart tries to find easy ways to pleasure and generally shrugs away the important matters that are not too pleasing or exciting. It distorts the reality and intoxicates us to the worldly tunes.

Brain on the other hand keeps a check on our heart. Brain disciplines our heart. It is only human mind which distinguishes it from other living beings on this earth. Man by extensively making use of his brains changed and modified it from being an animal into a creature of higher level consciousness. It is through his brain that he created for himself the world, the facilities to make his life interesting and easy. So, according to my opinion mind is definitely the boss.

Boss cannot work without the attention and cooperation of heart. Heart is the hub for our feelings and emotions. Man is not a computer deemed to perform only logical operations. A living being has been bestowed with the power to sense and feel.

There are two types of people, the thinkers and the feelers. Thinkers tend to place their mind first in making decisions. They are logical, rational and unbiased while taking their decisions. These people are often seen as taking responsibilities in the areas of quality control and supervisory nature. The other lot belongs to the feelers. These people have the quality of empathy and take decisions considering its effect on people feelings. Such people are well suited to the role of being an HR or a counselor, where persons are at the receiving end and where their psychological satisfaction is of utmost importance.

According to me heart and brain should both be coordinated as best friends of each other; Rather than allowing one to dominate the other. A person should live through his heart but heart should be well guided by the mind to save one from regret.

Now what happens if we go singly through what our minds them; our mind gives a green flag only to those people and things that match our beliefs?  Heart expands our vision and compassion for others. Heart allows us to accept things the way they are. Mind sometimes is unable to see things that can be easily felt with heart; it may in the form of understanding someone’s sadness or happiness by just looking into their eyes. Whereas mind can raise the question that he is just not like me.

Nowadays the topic of emotional quotient is becoming very popular. Many job interviews and tests have now also added to their list emotional intelligence ability tests. There is one immensely popular show by the name ‘Emotional Atyachar ‘that gets aired on a popular youth channel these days. Well this suggests that the topic which we are discussing right now holds a lot of importance. To live carefully and consciously is the solution which is the need of the hour. Gone are the days when due to emotional attachment of the heart people used to ignore the wrongdoings being done towards them. Mind always wants a reason, an answer for everything. We have now entered an era where people have become more expressive and independent.  Emotions should not become one’s weakness instead should be turned out into one’s strength. One should never be an emotional fool and should make use of his great mind always. Mind has been placed above the heart that is for a reason to get the final orders from it and then to proceed further in your doings. Mind should be put to use to decode the mysteries of the world and to make best use of our capabilities.

This battle of thoughts would always continue between your heart and brain and more are the battles higher would be the frustrations. So the best solution to minimize this conflict is to team up the heart and the Brain and make them work in situations through a team effort. Both these are bosses and leaders in their own specific way of approaching situations. No one is the boss because there are situations where you need to consider the rational approach of the brain whereas there are situations where you would require the empathetic approach towards solving problems or dealing with situations. 

we cannot afford to have a situation where there arises a conflict between the brain and the heart towards taking the lead, it should be a mutual consent with a decision that comes with a yes from both the brain and the heart because a brain cannot work with optimum efficiency if it does not have any support from the heart and similarly a heart may not be able to take decisions if it is not supported by the brainy ideas and logical interpretation that is required in this world to save you from unwanted people and situations. 

There a special touch which only heart can provide to our activities.  Many a times there are things perfectly been made but lack that very special feeling. That is the miracle of doing things with your heart and mind together. It is a fact that mind always asks for a reward of doing great things and if not given its due it does not find any reason of doing it again. It is here where heart becomes the king. Heart derives pleasure from small things. Mere act of indulging in something you love gives you a heartfelt joy and satisfaction to the spirit. It is this very important job of our heart to keep our spirit alive always at all times.

It is very well said that

‘When love and skill work together expect a masterpiece.’

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How to Achieve Success: A Practical Guide to Defining and Reaching Your Goals

 

How to Achieve Success: A Practical Guide to Defining and Reaching Your Goals

Success is a common aspiration—almost everyone wants to achieve it. People often chase success as if it is the ultimate goal in life. In modern society, success is frequently associated with name, fame, and money. While desire is universal, actually achieving success and reaching peak performance is a completely different challenge.

The truth is, success is not equally accessible to everyone. To make it attainable, you must follow two essential steps.

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Step 1: Understand What Success Means to You

One of the biggest mistakes people make is assuming that success has the same meaning for everyone. For example, if one person defines success as becoming wealthy, others around them often adopt the same belief. This is where things go wrong—we start defining our success based on others’ standards rather than our own values.

True success begins with self-awareness. You must identify what truly matters to you. Without this clarity, your efforts may be misdirected, leading you toward goals that bring little satisfaction.

Example:
Consider two friends. One aimed to become a successful entrepreneur and left home at 19, working tirelessly to achieve financial success by 35. While he succeeded financially, he had little time for his family. Over time, he realized that wealth meant little without meaningful relationships.

The second friend chose a different path. He started a small business that allowed him to stay close to his family. Although he earned less, he experienced emotional fulfillment and had no regrets. His definition of success was rooted in balance and happiness.

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Step 2: Prioritize and Strategize with Clarity

Once you define success for yourself, the next step is to plan how to achieve it. This involves setting priorities and creating strategies that align with your personal and professional life.

Balance is critical. The pursuit of success should not come at the cost of your well-being or relationships. Regular self-reflection helps you stay aligned with your goals and ensures that your actions contribute to long-term satisfaction.

Ask yourself:

• What truly matters to me?
• Am I maintaining a balance between work and personal life?
• Do my goals align with my values?

By answering these questions, you can create a clear and effective roadmap toward success.

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Key Takeaways for Achieving Success

• Success is personal—define it on your own terms.
• Avoid comparing your journey with others.
• Focus on both professional growth and personal happiness.
• Reflect regularly to stay aligned with your goals.
• Create a balanced strategy for long-term fulfilment.

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Conclusion

Success is not a one-size-fits-all concept. Every individual has a unique definition based on their values, priorities, and life experiences. The key is to understand what success truly means to you and then pursue it with clarity and balance.

When you align your actions with your personal definition of success, your journey becomes more meaningful and achievable. Instead of chasing society’s expectations, focus on building a life that brings both achievement and contentment.

Remember, success is not just about reaching a destination—it is about enjoying the journey, growing as a person, and living a life that feels truly fulfilling.

Loneliness in Life: Understanding Emotional Isolation and Finding Happiness

 

What is Loneliness and Why Do We Feel It?

Have you ever felt lonely despite having everything in life? It is a strange emotional state where you may be surrounded by people, yet feel completely alone. Many individuals experience this silent struggle—having friends and family but still lacking someone who truly understands their thoughts and emotions.

Loneliness is not always about being physically alone; it is more about emotional disconnection. In today’s fast-paced world, people are constantly chasing goals, often leaving little time for meaningful relationships. This emotional gap gradually leads to feelings of isolation.

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The Reality of Modern Life and Emotional Disconnection

Life today often feels like a race, where everyone is focused on achieving personal ambitions. Even relationships sometimes become transactional, driven by expectations and hidden motives. When this realization hits, it can trigger sadness, anxiety, and deep loneliness.

This emotional void is particularly noticeable when individuals feel they lack genuine support during life’s ups and downs. Over time, this can affect self-worth and mental well-being.

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Why Loneliness Affects Women More Deeply

Women often experience loneliness more intensely due to their emotional sensitivity and nurturing nature. A woman plays multiple roles throughout her life—daughter, wife, and mother—often prioritizing others’ happiness over her own.

While she gives love and care selflessly, she may not always receive the same in return. This imbalance can lead to emotional exhaustion and a sense of being unappreciated. Gradually, loneliness begins to take root, impacting both mental and physical health.

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Impact of Loneliness on Mental and Physical Health

Loneliness is not just an emotional condition—it can have serious consequences on overall health. Some of the major effects include:

• Increased risk of depression and anxiety
• Reduced self-esteem and confidence
• Sleep disturbances and stress
• Lack of motivation and emotional burnout

If left unaddressed, prolonged loneliness can lead to severe mental health challenges.

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Is Loneliness Self-Created or Situational?

In many cases, loneliness is partly influenced by our mindset and perceptions. While external factors play a role, how we respond to situations determines the intensity of loneliness.

A popular saying goes: “Life is beautiful, and if you live it right, once is enough.” This highlights the importance of perspective. Sometimes, we may have people around us, but we fail to open up or build deeper connections.

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The Connection Between Love and Loneliness

Love and loneliness are deeply interconnected. A lack of emotional intimacy can create a feeling of emptiness. Even with a large social circle, the absence of genuine care and affection can make a person feel isolated.

Women, in particular, value emotional bonding. When this need is unmet, they may withdraw socially and feel disconnected from the world. This can lead to overthinking and negative self-beliefs.

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How to Overcome Loneliness and Reclaim Happiness

The good news is that loneliness can be overcome with conscious effort. Here are some practical ways:

1. Build Meaningful Connections

Focus on quality over quantity in relationships. A few genuine connections are more valuable than many superficial ones.

2. Express Your Feelings

Sharing your thoughts and emotions helps release internal stress and creates deeper bonds.

3. Practice Self-Love

Understand your worth. You deserve happiness, care, and respect just like anyone else.

4. Stay Socially Active

Engage in activities, hobbies, or communities that bring joy and interaction.

5. Be Open to New Opportunities

Meeting new people, whether through social platforms or shared interests, can bring positivity and fresh perspectives.

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Give Your Life a New Beginning

You are valuable, and your happiness matters. Do not let loneliness define your life. Instead, take small steps toward building a life filled with love, connection, and purpose.

Keep your heart open, embrace new experiences, and allow yourself to grow. Life has endless possibilities, and it is never too late to start again.

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Final Thoughts on Loneliness

Loneliness is a common yet often unspoken experience. However, it does not have to be permanent. By changing your perspective, nurturing relationships, and valuing yourself, you can transform loneliness into a journey of self-discovery and emotional strength.

Remember—happiness begins within you.

 

Games v/s Love

 

 

“Games v/s Love”

Gamers are considered to be a species with high intellectual and analytical powers who have the ability to take logical decisions at the time of need and this ability is generated after spending hours of playing games, a true gamer has a passion to play and this passion grows with the span of time. Playing games provides an inner sense of satisfaction and a power to control at the press of a button. Games do inculcate a sense of commitment and curiosity to complete a challenge and this involves a person so much into the game that he/she even forgets to think about the love of his/her life. The belonging and the curiosity to play a game make’s a person go mad and he/she just thinks of himself/herself and the satisfaction he/she gets from doing so, but forgets about something which is very important in life and that is spending some great time with, the love of your life who loves you the most and wants some of your precious time and affection.

Games are a great fun but this should not be done at the cost of sacrificing your love. Most of the gamers do cut them off socially and do not even bother about their love which finally results into broken relationships. You should try to make a perfect balance between your passion for playing games and your love life because both of these things are important for a happy life. The best way out is to define your playing time and the time which you have to spend with your love or the best way is to have some romance while playing. The anxiety of playing if mixed with the emotions of romance will produce a killer feeling and you would love to be with your partner playing and enjoying together.

Playing games and loving your love are just like two tyres of your bike in which a perfect balance is required within the two for a smooth ride. You cannot afford to neglect any one just due to the other. In such a situation you should never let your love feel that you love playing games more than him/her, but you know it that playing games is one thing which keeps you going and you cannot live without it. Instead you need to be a bit smart in this and a bit emotional too. Games are necessary for your brain and your love is necessary for your heart, so in order to be fit and fine both of these should be healthy. So having sync in your relationship and your love for playing games is not a very difficult task, give timely importance to both. You have to remember that in a game you have a pause and a restart button but in your real love life you do not have this option, Human emotions do need a human to understand them and you are someone special for someone who is very special to you too, It would be the best thing if you can make your lovable partner understand the craziness you have for playing games and also your madness levels which you have for him/her and remember if you can involve your partner in games you will surely find one of the best competitor to play with. Playing together can uplift your love for each other which will further enhance the love bond between you too and playing games can even turn out to be naughty at times enhancing your love for each other, every time you play.

“Freaky Frustrations”

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                      “Freaky Frustrations”

A great psychological phenomenon which indeed is the most unwanted bug infecting our life.

Frustration in normal is a common response system of an individual towards a situation in which he faces obstacles, disappointments, failures.So an emotional outburst of feelings which intend to disclose the status of a person’s state of mind due to non achievement of a particular objective in a specified way as it was desired.

We all are facing the friction of frustrations day and every day during our routine activities too. It is a state of mind in which most of us do loose the power to take sensible decisions and face a power which tries to erode our confidence and determination towards attainment of our objectives. Higher the goal more would be the problems and greater the problems will result into bigger frustrations.

In our daily life we do accomplish hundreds of tasks, before starting any task our brain technically prepares a plan to be executed for the attainment of specified goals. But at times there are certain internal and external factors which act as a blockade towards this process. If our levels of energy which the brain had allotted for the completion of the task are not able to break this blockade, we feel helpless and the brain surrenders to the problem by releasing the available allotted energy in the form of stressful verbal, mental and physical actions which further create a continuous flow of negative energies in and out of the body.

So frustration is like friction which is necessary in some cases but creates a lot many problems if the level exceeds a particular level.

The higher is the desire to achieve something higher would be the level of frustration if that objective is not accomplished. Frustration is a feeling which exhibits flavors of anger, tension, stress and resentment at the same time. These feelings do create a negative field in and around us and thus stops all the positive things and thoughts to approach us.

Frustration is a freaky mechanism of the mind when it feels a particular situation out of its control, when the mind admits its incompetency to tackle a particular situation it gives out a S.O.S signal in the form of frustration.

At this moment of time normally it becomes very difficult for a person to overcome the problem on its own and even self motivation is not capable of accomplishing the given task. A bit of external motivation can definitely trigger and boost the confidence of an individual and once this static friction is overcome the dynamic forces of positivity do take the charge and gives us energy to overcome the problem and once it is done frustrations are gone.